Re-remove cuda v11 (#10694)

* Re-remove cuda v11

Revert the revert - drop v11 support requiring drivers newer than Feb 23

This reverts commit c6bcdc4223.

* Simplify layout

With only one version of the GPU libraries, we can simplify things down somewhat.  (Jetsons still require special handling)

* distinct sbsa variant for linux arm64

This avoids accidentally trying to load the sbsa cuda libraries on
a jetson system which results in crashes.

* temporary prevent rocm+cuda mixed loading

.github/workflows/test.yaml

@@ -46,7 +46,7 @@ jobs:
         include:
           - preset: CPU
           - preset: CUDA
-            container: nvidia/cuda:11.8.0-devel-ubuntu22.04
+            container: nvidia/cuda:12.8.1-devel-ubuntu22.04
             flags: '-DCMAKE_CUDA_ARCHITECTURES=87'
           - preset: ROCm
             container: rocm/dev-ubuntu-22.04:6.1.2
@@ -78,7 +78,7 @@ jobs:
         include:
           - preset: CPU
           - preset: CUDA
-            install: https://developer.download.nvidia.com/compute/cuda/11.3.1/local_installers/cuda_11.3.1_465.89_win10.exe
+            install: https://developer.download.nvidia.com/compute/cuda/12.8.0/local_installers/cuda_12.8.0_571.96_windows.exe
             flags: '-DCMAKE_CUDA_ARCHITECTURES=80'
           - preset: ROCm
             install: https://download.amd.com/developer/eula/rocm-hub/AMD-Software-PRO-Edition-24.Q4-WinSvr2022-For-HIP.exe
@@ -102,7 +102,7 @@ jobs:
           $ErrorActionPreference = "Stop"
           if ("${{ steps.cache-install.outputs.cache-hit }}" -ne 'true') {
             Invoke-WebRequest -Uri "${{ matrix.install }}" -OutFile "install.exe"
-            Start-Process -FilePath .\install.exe -ArgumentList (@("-s", "cudart_11.3", "nvcc_11.3", "cublas_11.3", "cublas_dev_11.3")) -NoNewWindow -Wait
+            Start-Process -FilePath .\install.exe -ArgumentList (@("-s", "cudart_12.8", "nvcc_12.8", "cublas_12.8", "cublas_dev_12.8")) -NoNewWindow -Wait
           }
 
           $cudaPath = (Resolve-Path "C:\Program Files\NVIDIA GPU Computing Toolkit\CUDA\*").path